A cute, gift-wrapped box arrives at your house. When you unwrap it, you find a beautiful sex toy – the one you’ve had bookmarked on your browser for months, in fact! Of course, the hand-written note is signed with love from your partner, and now that new toy is going straight to the charger because your evening just got real busy.
Sound familiar? Maybe, maybe not. But sex toys as gifts have been steadily rising in popularity over the last few years – to the point that you might be receiving sex toys from your favorite friends and not just your sexual partners.
Yes, sexual discourse has (finally) started to bleed into our everyday lives, and we are 100% here for it. (Open sexual discussions = better sexual satisfaction for everyone!)
You might be wondering why your partner chose to give you a sex toy. Do they think they’re inadequate? Is this just supposed to be a hint that you both aren’t having enough sex?
Well, no! While we know that some sex toy gifts are given with malicious purposes, the majority definitely aren’t! In fact, most sex toys are gifted out of love for the receiver – and to make the receiver’s life better!
So let’s explore some of the reasons your partner might have used when they just bought you a sex toy:
Almost all of us are feeling the social distancing fatigue. (I miss actually leaving my house without it being a production of safety!) Your partner might be giving you a sex toy “just because” – and to give you something to do while you’re socially distancing and your social calendar has been emptied.
Most of us could use some positive things in our lives right now, and the excuse for great orgasms? It’s hard to turn that one down.
You’re Temporarily Apart
There’s nothing like being physically apart to remind you both that you won’t be able to participate in the “usual” version of sex that you’re both used to. Sex toys can be a good stand-in while you both are apart – particularly if you’re able to sext or video call while you’re apart to use them. If you’re gifted a sex toy before an extended trip, your partner is really hoping that you’ll think of them each time you use it and look forward to their return when the two of you can be “together” again in the way that you’re used to.
They Want You to Experience More Pleasure
Most people realize that sex toys can definitely add more pleasure within the bedroom, and that’s another big reason why you might find a gift-wrapped sex toy from your partner. While our bodies alone can provide amazing pleasure (and orgasms!) all on their own for many people, what’s the harm in adding even more pleasure potential to the bedroom?
Whether it’s through a high-powered vibrator, a cock ring, a penis sleeve, or a rabbit vibrator like the LELO SORAYA Wave, more toys in the bedroom means more pleasure. Even the most “solo” looking toys like a rabbit vibrator can quickly become a couple’s toy when your partner uses it on you – or watches you use it on yourself!
No One Else Can
Sometimes, your partner wants to give you that sex toy purely because no one else can – especially if they’re the pragmatic type. It’s certainly socially appropriate to ask for a sweater from your family at Christmas, but asking for a dildo? Depending on your family, that might make the next family gatherings awfully awkward.
So when your holiday wish-list gets divvied up between those you celebrate with, your partner might find that the most practical gift for them to provide is the sex toy that no one else can provide. This is especially true with family-focused holidays like Christmas where asking your sibling for a LELO SILA is probably going to be more awkward than pleasant.
Sharing A New Experience with You
A lot of partners will gift a sex toy just for the chance to try out a new experience with you. Relationship experts agree that trying new experiences together brings you both closer together – and why not make that new experience during an intimate moment in the first place?
Romance-focused items like the LELO Flickering Touch massage candle (one of the most budget-friendly products in the luxury LELO line) can be a great fit for trying out something new – but so can any new accessory in the bedroom.
Just by bringing in something new to try within the bedroom, your partner is saying that they want to share that experience with you.
And sharing new experiences and getting closer to one another is everything that “sex toys” are about.
It’s hard to see anything wrong with that!
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