Not all resolutions revolve around losing weight or reaching a career goal. January can bring about fresh starts in various areas of your life. And this new year, why not take the opportunity to explore new ways to pleasure yourself with some innovative (and highly pleasurable) masturbation techniques?
Whether you’ve been masturbating for years, or are new to the game of physical self-love, there’s always room for improvement. Here are some of our favorite game-changers to celebrate a brand new year of pleasure.
The go-to masturbatory position is to lay on your back in bed. It’s convenient, easy, and comfortable. But when it comes to coming on command, angles are everything. Trying different positions just like you would during partnered sex, leads to different experiences and orgasms.
Try sitting up on the edge of your bed, throw your legs in the air, or even get on your hands and knees. Something as simple as flipping over onto your stomach can change your masturbatory experience in ways you never would have expected. Plus it makes you work a little harder for that orgasm at the end of the tunnel.
Incorporate your butt.
The obvious stars of any masturbation session are your genitals. But this year, why not work on stimulating other nearby erogenous zones while you’re at it? The anus is packed with nerve-endings, and if you let them, they can take your solo-love experience to a deeper level.
While touching yourself, let your fingers wander a touch more Southward than usual. Test the waters and tease your butthole a bit at first. If you’re feeling adventurous, graduate to single finger penetration. If you’ve got a prostate, anal penetration can stimulate the “P-spot” and culminate in an orgasm for the ages.
Masturbate after a workout or meditating.
Masturbation isn’t just a physical activity—it’s a mindset. And so one of our favorite masturbation techniques is actually the work you do before you masturbate.
If you’re in a bad, lazy, or sullen mood, your orgasm will almost certainly reflect that. Exercising floods the body with endorphins, chemicals that leave you with a positive and euphoric feeling. If you’re more into the mental workout, try 5 to 20 minutes of meditation to help soften the mind and rid the body of any lingering anxieties. Capitalize on that natural high or clear headspace and ride it straight through to your climax.
Masturbate in the mirror.
Even though masturbation mostly happens alone, that doesn’t mean it isn’t an act of intimacy. Self-pleasure is all about knowing your body being intimate with yourself. Level up the self-connection factor by positioning yourself in front of a mirror before you do the deed. Watch the way your face and body react when you touch yourself in different ways. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but remember to look at yourself lovingly and with admiration. This technique is great for boosting self-confidence and you might even learn a thing or two about how you like to be pleasured.
Talk to yourself.
Keeping in the theme of self-connection, try engaging in some dirty talk with yourself while you masturbate. Visualizing and vocalizing your pleasure can accentuate your sensual feelings and reactions. If something feels good, say it out loud! If you’re into it, go ahead call yourself a sexy name. Using your voice is a great way to liven up your solo sex life.
Use the other parts of your hand.
When we’re not using toys to get the job done, the tips of our fingers usually do the heavy lifting when it comes to self-induced orgasms. But there is so much real estate on your hand that doesn’t have to sit idly by during masturbation. Using the smooth surface of the back of your hand on the shaft of your penis or a gentle knuckle above the clitoris is an easy way to mix things up. And of course, you can always use your non-dominant hand for a bit of a challenge.
Sensory deprivation is a fun way to bring a hint of mystery into the bedroom whether you’re having sex with or without a partner. You’d be surprised how much a blindfold can change the way you feel things, even if you’re the one doing all the touching. This technique is great for slow, sensual masturbation sessions. With a blindfold on, trace your hands over your nipples, down your sides, and across the insides of your thighs. It also helps to eliminate possible distractions and focus your concentration on your sense of touch.
As you embark on this new year, remember not to put self-love on the backburner. Self-improvement isn’t about punishing or changing yourself. It’s about enhancing your experiences, and masturbation is no exception.
Laurie Magers is a comedy writer and actor living in Los Angeles. Her favorite color is red and her favorite food is crab legs. Check out more from her at www.lauriemagers.com.